From Layman’s Desk-14
Now it is very common for the Wahhabis to cite this Hadith Shareef: Narrated ‘Urwa: Aisha said, “The Prophet in his fatal illness said, ‘Allah cursed the Jews and the Christians because they took the graves of their Prophets as places for praying.” Aisha added, ”Had it not been for that the grave of the Prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wasallam) would have been made prominent but I am afraid it might be taken (as a) place for praying. [Sahih Muslim Volume 2, Book 23, Number 414]
A hadith Shareef with a wrong translation says: "Do not make my grave a place of festivity." The correct translation is: “Do not make my grave an anniversary festival and nothing more," meaning: Visit me often, not just once a year. Do not make an `EID of it. Al-Mundhiri, a hadith scholar, explained this hadith: "Do not consider it enough to visit my grave only once a year, like on 'Eid days. Try to visit me frequently!" “Eid” denotes festive activities that come annually. In Urdu language, for example, when someone meets us after a very long time we say: “Kyaa Eid ke Chaand bann gaye ho!” Which literally means, “You have become like the crescent of the Eid”, implying “Why don’t you meet me often!” In this regard, it is to be noted that the Prophet (sal Allahu alayhe wasallam) told Mu`adh ibn Jabal to visit his grave whenever he would return from Yemen. [Musnad Ahmad with two sound chains as stated by al-Haythami, al-Bazzar, al-Tabarani in al-Kabir and Musnad al-Shamiyyin, Ibn Abi `Asim in al-Ahad wal-Mathani and al-Sunna, Ibn Hibban in his Sahih, al-Bayhaqi in al-Sunan al-Kubra]. And he (sal Allahu alayhi wasallam) promised his intercession to those who would do so. There is consensus that such a visitation is among the Sunan and Qurubat or recommended acts of worship.
According to ad-Dhahabi in Siyar A`lam al-Nubala' ("Lives of the Elite of the Nobility"), “The one who stands before the blessed Chamber (hujra) in all humility and submission, invoking blessings upon his Prophet -- Allah bless and greet him -- - O how blessed that one is! For he has made his visitation excellent, and beautified it with humbleness and love, and he has performed more worship than the one who invoked blessings on the Prophet -- Allah bless and greet him -- from his own land or in his prayer. The reason is that the one who performs visitation has both the reward of visiting him and that of invoking blessings upon him; while those who invoke blessings upon him from all over the world only have the reward of invoking blessings upon him; and upon whomever invokes blessings once, Allah sends ten blessings.”
According to the Islamic scholars therefore, the correct meaning is "Visit me often and at all times." This is the explanation preferred by the Ulema, among them Hafiz al-Sakhawi the student of Imam al-Hadith Ibn Hajar in his chapter entitled "On the meaning of the hadith: Do not make my grave an `Eid" in "al-Qawl al-Badi` fil-Salat was-Salam `ala al-Habib al-Shafi`" (Beirut 1987/1407) p. 159-160: The author of "Silah al-Mu'min" said: "It is probable that the intent (murad) of the Prophet's saying: "Do not make my grave an `Eid" is emphasis and encouragement (al-hathth) on the frequency of visiting him and not treating his visit like an anniversary festival which does not occur in the year other than at two times.
According to Islamic scholars, the emphasis and encouragement on visiting his noble grave is mentioned in numerous ahadith, and it would suffice to show this if there was only the hadith whereby the truthful and God-confirmed Prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wasallam) promises that his intercession among other things becomes obligatory for whoever visits him, and the Imams are in complete agreement from the time directly after his passing until our own time that this is among the best acts of drawing near to Allah.
As for the hadith that says, "Do not make your houses graves," it means: do not abandon prayer in your houses and thus turn them into places similar to the graveyard where it is not permitted to perform the salat. Thus it is seen that Hadrat al-Munziri's explanation in regard to the above-mentioned hadiths is correct.
Lastly, I would like to quote the words of a modern Hanbali scholar of Islam who said: